What is real and what we wish to be are sometimes a bit different. Sometimes they’re the exact opposite.
Young children who thrive on routine can be thrown for a loop when their days get messed up. So what happens when Mom is sick and is sick quite often?
I’ve tried to keep things on an even keel for Peanut. She loves routine, gets quite upset when things are changed around and gets anxious when they’re not back to normal for days.
I have back up plans. I have family and friends that I can call on in an instant if I need help. They can get Peanut to school, pick her up, know her likes and dislikes, be sure her homework is done, etc.
I try to stay positive. There’s no sense in complaining about every ache and pain. If your child hears those words coming from you, it can mean disaster.
I let her school or any organization she belongs to know of my issues. If there’s a sudden change of plans they understand and can accommodate.
I am honest with my child but keeping age appropriateness in mind. If I’m really sick she can tell anyway, but I try to put a positive spin on it. I’ll say something like, “Mom’s sick today but you know how well I’ve been. The doctors are working to make me better already.”
One thing I’m hoping to get done is to get a support group running for children with parents of Chronic Illnesses. I know I can’t run it, so I’m in the thinking stages still.