What IF?
Since my Uncle passed recently I’ve been facing the reality of my mortality. Not a pretty subject. But something that we all must face, plan for and consider.
Actually I’ve faced this a few times before due to Myasthenia Gravis crises. (No, I’ve not been intubated, thank God.) I’ve had rides in ambulances, really scary choking episodes, and breathing problems.
When I had my thymectomy I faced major surgery like open heart surgery. While in the OR I did have heart problems. I learned about them after being in ICU and being placed on the Cardiac floor. In my drug induced daze I wondered why I was there. why two cardiologists visited me and why nurses came running every few hours to check me when my heart monitor showed my racing heart rate.
But I digress (as usual). Before this surgery I sat my hubby down and told him that I wanted a will. He didn’t want to face it, go with me to the lawyer or even talk about it. I learned that since we’re married we needed to have a will for each of us. There were some tough decisions to make. The most difficult was about our younger daughter - who would take care of her if we both died.
Hubby and I argued, fought, cried, screamed about this. When you have your own families (his both parents are alive, my Mother is alive) you feel allegiance to them. But, hey it got him talking!
I have a Living Will or Advance Directives done and my Will. I’d suggest anyone with any kind of Chronic Illness do both. I’d suggest anyone without do both. Be prepared. Don’t leave major decisions up to your family. It’s hard enough when you’re grieving or in shock to decide to put a loved one on a respirator or not, or to bury them or cremate them.
Death is real. We just need to face it like adults.
So true - even though it’s extremely depressing to think of. Currently, I have no assets, children, or husband to worry about. I would probably give all of my possessions to my sisters - who else would want them? I know Jo was talking about stealing half my clothes, heh. Other then that though, I would just leave a letter saying what to do at my memorial service (who I want to be there, that I wanted to be cremated extra).
It’s a sad thing to face, but it needs to be done!
I hear you all the way. This is something I need to do. I have to be
sure my family is protected should something happen to me. Thank you
for the important reminder.
This is always hard to deal with, my father passed away a few years ago and my sister and I had to take care of most things. He did not have a will luckily in our case it worked out as he really didn’t own anything.
In most cases though it is more complicated. I know I went though the same thing you are going through, I still don’t have a will, but I don’t own anything and I live with my parents so I don’t need one yet.