My Chronic Life

Does your health issues get in the way of your love life? Is your chronic pain not allowing you to enjoy a loving relationship with your spouse? Are there concerns about how your body may have changed in appearance due surgery, scars, or other health related reasons?

Being able to talk about your concerns with your spouse is vital to getting back on track. Find a time when you’ll have quiet, no interruptions and privacy. Also make you and your spouse as comfortable as possible. Then talk as openly as you can about what’s bothering you. Communication is the key to a good relationship. So getting past this can help both of you grow together as a couple.

If you’re not sure why your love life is not the same or lacking then it may be time to speak to a therapist. If you do know why and can’t communicate to your spouse it’s time too. There’s nothing wrong in seeking the advice of a professional. You may even want to start with your doctor. I know that often we see many doctors or specialists and it may be difficult to pinpoint which doctor to begin with. I’d suggest your Family Doctor or GP. If that doesn’t go well, a woman can make visit her Gynecologist.

There can be drug interactions that can cause a low libido. You can speak to your pharmacist or read about your medications yourself. But if this problem is more deep seated, meaning that it is more of a personal problem not a health one, a counselor, therapist, psychiatrist or psychologist may the route to take.

There are many reasons for a lack of sex drive but having a chronic illness or multiple conditions can interfere in a couple’s relationship in many different ways. There is always hope though when there is a relationship built on love, trust and commitment. Sometimes taking things slowly like holding each other, kissing, cuddling, etc. for a few days of weeks can help you feel more intimate again.

Please know there is help and hope.